So, I guess that would be a no . . .

Here is the email I got in reply from my father. I think it means that he doesn't want me to come, but he doesn't actually say that. My family can be very confusing.

Ruty,

It is good of you to offer, we appreciate that, and we will be calling you, but the responsibilities here are for Danny especially, as the son, and Ima. You can remember Safta as you knew her. She enjoyed your letters and was proud of them. Ima and Danny will also have some legal formalities to deal with after the first week. The actual process for the next week is not set, so I will have to write again later. You are only 6 hours different from us now, so we will try to call, possibly tonight or tomorrow after Danny arrives.

Daddy